Read this super cool article Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives the other day, and shared it with some friends who told me that they also found themselves resonating with it. After poking around the topic, I started reading the book introduced in the article, Mindset by Carol Dweck and decided to share some notes here with people who have the desire to be better as a person and to achieve something.
Win or lose, success or failure are all temporary things. People with a “fixed mind” tend to tie their self worth with these events and beat themselves up for them. However, people with a “growth mind” see them as what they are and as opportunities to learn and develop.
“I don’t divide the world into the weak and the strong, or the successes and the failures, those who make it or those who don’t. I divide the world into learners and non-learners.”
― Benjamin R. Barber
The real failure is to never allow oneself to be out of his/her comfort zone. As a popular YOLO saying stated: miracle happens at the end of your comfort zone. What a pity to never let yourself realize your full learning potential through trying, embarrassing yourself and exploring.
Kids/adults bully to get a quick fix of self-esteem by making others’ life miserable.
Being too shy sometimes is only self-protection from being judged by others by not trying anything at all.
Having a fixed mind in the social environment can result in talking too much about oneself in order to get approval from others for self-esteem.
This kind of mindset can ruin friendships: the worse you do, the better I feel… They are too easy to please but too difficult to protect.
“If I let myself sink in self-pitying, the rest of my life will be cursed”
Came across this blog on building mental toughness which also made many good points related to having a growth mindset.